At Lifting Stars Veterinary Homecare, we understand how deeply our pets shape our lives. Saying goodbye to a cherished companion can leave a void that feels overwhelming. Grieving is a natural, personal process, and there’s no “right” way to do it. We’ve compiled these 20 gentle suggestions to support you through this tender time, allowing space for healing and honouring your companions memory.
Emotional and Mental Care
- Create a Special Memorial
Whether it’s a scrapbook, a photo album, or planting a tree, creating something tangible can help celebrate your pet’s life. - Allow Yourself to Grieve
It’s okay to feel a range of emotions—sadness, anger, even joy at cherished memories. Grief isn’t a straight path, and there’s no deadline to “get over it.” - Be Kind to Yourself
Grief can be tough, and it’s easy to be hard on yourself. Speak to yourself with kindness, and remind yourself it’s okay to struggle. Don’t compare yourself to others and accept that grief comes in waves- and some of those waves are bigger than others. - Talk About Them
Sharing stories and memories with friends or family who understand can keep their spirit alive and bring moments of comfort. Reminiscing on times gone by can be hugely cathartic. - Write to Them
Tell them what you miss, thank them for the joy they brought you, and share what’s in your heart. - Laugh When You Can
Remembering the silly, sweet, or naughty things they did can bring moments of happiness. It’s okay to smile or laugh—it’s part of honouring their joy. - Take Things Day by Day
Life without them can feel unfamiliar. Building small routines, even a morning walk or lighting a candle for them, can help provide stability. - Find a Creative Outlet
Express your feelings through art, journaling, or creating something in their memory. These outlets can help process emotions. - Seek Support When You Need It
Grief can feel isolating. Pet loss support groups, counselors, or even talking to someone who’s been through it can make a difference. You are not alone. - Make Time for Daily Joy
Even small activities like baking, listening to music, or spending time with loved ones can help you rediscover moments of peace.
Physical and Sensory Care
- Get Moving
Gentle exercise, like walking or yoga, can lift your mood and reduce stress. Even small movements can bring a sense of calm and release those feel good endorphins. - Take Care of Your Body
Grief is exhausting and can be all consuming. Be sure to eat nourishing meals, drink plenty of water, and get enough sleep to care for yourself. - Spend Time Outdoors
Nature has a soothing effect. Go for a walk, sit by the water, or simply breathe in fresh air—it can bring clarity and calm. Vancouver has so many wonderful parks and beaches- take time to sit and watch the world go by. - Find Comfort in Routines
Reestablishing simple habits, like morning tea or an evening walk, can create a sense of stability during a difficult time. - Soothe Your Senses
Wrap yourself in a soft blanket, light a candle, or listen to calming music. Sensory comforts can help ease stress. Book yourself a relaxing massage or explore some local comedy clubs- do something for you. - Honour Them Daily
Light a candle, keep their photo nearby, or whisper a thought to them each morning. Small rituals can help maintain a connection. - Let in Light
Open your curtains, step into the sunlight, or take a moment to watch the sunrise. Light has a way of lifting heavy hearts. - Prioritize Your Health
Grief can take a toll on your body. Pay attention to your health, and visit your doctor if needed—your well-being is important too. If you have been caring for a senior companion with mobility issues your body has likely been under extra physical stress- take care of those aches and pains. - Connect Through Touch
Hugs, hand-holding, or simply wrapping yourself in a warm blanket can offer a sense of comfort and grounding. - Breathe Intentionally
Take a few deep, slow breaths when you feel overwhelmed. Breathing can bring a sense of calm and control during difficult moments.
Your bond with your pet is a testament to the love and care you shared. That love doesn’t disappear—it stays with you, woven into your memories and heart. A love that never fades.
At Lifting Stars Veterinary Homecare, we honour the human-animal bond between pets and their families. Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. If you need support, ideas for memorials, or someone to talk to, we’re here to help. Please visit our website Resources page at https://liftingstars.ca/pet-grief-resources/ for more information.
“Take it one day at a time, and know that healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means holding onto the love while moving forward.”